As I sit with my morning coffee I ponder many things. Today I was wondering what others do?
I often have a blunt tongue that has gotten me into trouble in the past. Then some others have a hard time saying what they feel.
Take for instance... you’ve been in this situation—you’re reeling from a disagreement with your significant other, and when asked if you’re okay, you responded with a very blunt “I’m fine.” But what you really wanted to say was “I’m not fine. I’m hurt and upset.” Or perhaps you’ve been on a shopping trip with your friends, and when one of them tried on something that was less than flattering, you feigned a “it looks great!” Most of us have been guilty of this—saying one thing but meaning something entirely different.
It’s fairly common in our day-to-day lives—when someone asks how you are, you respond with the default “I’m well,” or when you have too much work and you’re offered help, you say you don’t need it. It can be hard, especially for some women and men, to say what they are really thinking or feeling because they don’t want to seem vulnerable or offend someone.
So let’s open up a discussion.
Do you think not saying what you really mean or feel is that big of an issue?
If you think it is, is there a way to approach saying what you mean without the vulnerability or potentially insulting another individual?
Me... I know I have to work on the truthful but polite conversation. The thing is for me is "truth... no matter if it hurts seems the best policy." Otherwise, we really are not give anyone our true selves. We are living "Fake."
Can any of you give advise who are great at speaking up and speaking with polite conviction, give advice to those of us who have a hard time in uncomfortable situations?
I'll be waiting... until next time or my next cup of coffee and new wandering thoughts.
Nana
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