We can barely picture adult temper tantrums. When we think of a temper tantrum, generally a picture of a two-year-old lying on the floor, kicking and screaming comes to mind.This is most likely because temper tantrums "are" a normal part of childhood development. They are usually an outburst of upset or frustration in children between the ages of one and four years old. As children learn how to express their feelings in a socially acceptable manner, as well as exercise better control over their emotions, they “grow out” of their temper tantrum inclined behaviours.
The reality is that adults can also have outbursts of uncontrolled emotions. Ultimately, an adult temper tantrum occurs when the person cannot cope with negative emotions or is unable to calm themselves down. Adult temper tantrums can be verbal, physical or both. For example, someone might shout, curse, slam doors, kick or throw objects around.
“Adult temper tantrums are the result of uncontrolled emotions.”
Adult temper tantrums are often tolerated despite them having a negative impact on those around them. Usually these outbursts are labelled “blowing off a little steam”, “being over stressed” or even “being pushed too far”. But labelling them with a more acceptable term doesn’t change the reality of what they are: Uncontrolled outbursts of upset or frustration commonly known as a temper tantrum.
The advice by perfessional to do "When Adults throw Temper Tantrums:"...
One of the key things to do when faced with an Adult Temper Tantrum is know the signs and recognise patterns that tend towards outbursts. Then when one sees that a tantrum is afoot, disengage from the situation...
However, when it's in your own living room then it get a little harder and inconvenient.
I know that "Adult" temper tantrums should not be regarded as “normal” or “acceptable”. As it requires addressing a negative and socially unacceptable behaviour, its often easier to ignore the episode and just carry on with life. Some people who are confronted with someone who has temper tantrums sometime are disinclined to expose the behaviour for what it is because it is embarrassing for them and shameful for the person having the temper tantrums.
However, I realize this is essentially condoning the behaviour and could lead to an escalation rather than a resolution of the problem in the long run.
I have counseled them about their behaviour and advised them it is not acceptable and as such won’t be tolerated going forward.
However, I realize often the person having the tantrum may not want to immediately acknowledge the issue. Therefore, during my conversation, I outlined what my appropriate response in future will be. Just as we remember, as with issuing a warning to children, follow through on what I have said is going to be imperative.
I am too old to be putting up with childish behavior and raising another child & at the age of 75 is out the question.
Notice has been set!
No nonsense has become my mantra...
Nana
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